To Sext or Not to Sext: How It Can Help Relationships

by Aileen
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There are 101 ways to spice up your relationship, but a few years down the road and you’re bound to run out of ideas. Thankfully, you don’t have to grow old and dull with your partner. You can save your relationship from heading to boringville.

To sext or not to sext – oh, the great debate of all time!

You’ve probably read a lot of its pros and cons over the years. If nothing have convinced you to even try sexting at least once, then this just might.

A study presented at the American Psychological Association’s 123rd Annual Convention in Toronto, Canada, showed that sexting might help boost your relationship satisfaction. About 75% of the participants who admitted sexting did so in a committed relationship. Others said they did it as part of casual relationships.

Before you whip out your mobile phone and start sexting, it’s good to know how exactly it can keep the fire burning:

1. It Lets You Live a Little

Many consider sexting as a risky sexual behavior. When done with a person you trust and within the context of a relationship, sexting lets you engage in a risky sexual activity without fully throwing caution to the wind.

Unlike sexting outside of a relationship, there may be fewer risks involved when doing it with a committed partner.

When you’re in a relationship, you trust that your partner would keep your pictures and messages safe from prying eyes. Of course, you have to do the same. Whether you’re in the receiving end or not, you’re responsible for making sure that everything is kept private.

Before you start sexting, make sure to turn off that auto upload feature on your phone.

2. It Lets You Set the Pace

You know how sometimes you wish your foreplay could go on a little longer but your partner wants to cut it short? Sexting lets you set the pace.

Take it slow or the whole day if you want to. It’s all up to you. At the end of the day, you and your S/O will have something to look forward to.

3. It Makes LDR More Exciting

You need to be creative to keep your long-distance relationship exciting. Emojis just wouldn’t do it. E-cards for birthdays and anniversaries are so 1990s. Sexting is another option to maintain intimacy with your partner.

4. It Fosters Open Sexual Communication

One of the main points the research presented at this year’s convention was sexting’s potential positive effects on sexual communication.

No matter how liberated we think the society is, many still find it difficult to talk about sex. Sexting could open the door for discussion. It may even help you have more fun in bed as you become comfortable texting what you want and how you want things done.

According to the same study, sexting may also help address other communication problems.

5. It Makes You More Comfortable with Your Body

The key to sexting is confidence. Whether you’re just sending a text or a picture of yourself, you need to be comfortable in your own skin. It also helps you become more aware of your sexuality. As your confidence grows, you’ll find the activity more enjoyable.

Sexting isn’t for everyone. Although the study presented its benefits, let’s not forget the consequences that we may have to face when we’re not careful with our actions.

If you’ve hit a bump in the road and you feel that sexting might help the relationship, see how your partner feels about it. As Emily Stasko, the co-author of the research, said in an interview “Within the context of a relationship, wantedness of sexting matters. Unwanted sexting is bad for relationship satisfaction. Wanted sexting is good for sexual and relationship satisfaction…”


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